we afraid to be parents?
Most of the parents today seem to be. They want to be their children’s friends
rather than the adults responsible for them. Children have many friends. They
only have one set of parents.
often do we allow our children to be the parents and rule the roost? Advertising used to be
geared to women. Now it is geared to children as they are considered the people
who bring pressure to bear to buy products. The job of the parent is to train
and provide for their children. It is not the children’s job to run the family.
Sure we should take their thoughts into consideration, but it should be no more
than that. Many “Nanny” programmes are springing up on TV, and are watched by
thousands, to tell parents just this. You are the parent—whether you want the
job or not. Being the parent means making the decisions for them until they are
old enough to make their own. It also means allowing them sometimes to make
mistakes and suffer the consequences. Being a good parent isn’t easy,
especially when your children don’t like the decision you have made.
we have taught them when they are young to consider that their opinion is
paramount and equal to an adults—and this is just what schools do—then when
they reach the workforce they are in for a shock. I am told by many employers
that children just out of school often expect to sit down with their employer
and have meaningful discussions on what is to be done and what job they wish to
do. That is just not going to happen.
we unintentionally teaching our children the wrong thing? Are we teaching them that
everything they do should be enjoyable? As a housewife I know that many
jobs that have to be done each day are not enjoyable, but they still have to be
done. Who enjoys cleaning the toilet? The majority of people in the workforce
admit that most of their work is repetitious and boring since it is the same
every day. To find a little of their school work not as interesting as other
parts and yet still do it, is good training for the future. If we have not
equipped our children for the reality of the workforce, we have done them a
great disservice. The biggest reward of working will always be the pay packet.
we taught children that money has to be earned or are we prepared to support
our children financially into their 30’s and 40’s? This is what is happening. Children
are either not leaving home or are boomeranging back and both parents are being
forced to work full time to keep them. In our household the rule has always
been that if you want money you work for it. Some jobs were done for love when
they were small—and because they made the mess—and other jobs were paid for. As
they get older they got a part-time job. When they were working full time they
paid board and helped contribute to the family’s finance. The dole was only an
option, as a last resort, if they were married and had children to support and
they were taught they should take any job as soon as possible. Their father
always modelled this for them and it is a lesson they have learnt well.
we taught children they can be anything they want? The truth is that they can’t. Some
things take natural talent—drawing and playing music. Other things require more
brain power. We are not all the same and we do not all have the same abilities.
This does not make any of us of more value than any other, nor does it mean
that we will necessarily earn less. A worker at a warehouse can earn $1,000 per
week clear with reasonable overtime.
we no longer function as individuals or families? Do we need groups to “support” us? Do we need counselling for
the least little thing?
Can’t we cope with anything? Or
is it simply that society has broken down to such an extent that family support
is no longer available?
we so used to seeing the mediocre or bad that we can no longer recognise
It surprises me how many parents can not tell quality books from the rubbish
and who can not pick up elemental mistakes, e.g. “there” and “their.”
we really need the Government telling us what to eat, when to go to the doctor
etc? Does the
Government really believe that they are not only the best judge of what our
children need, but also can make choices for us as well? More to the point, why
have we allowed them to get this way?
If these are
all true then Australia is in trouble. Rome was the greatest Empire in history.
Rome only fell from without when she had decayed from within. Once her family
system broke down, her morals decayed and her empire became weak.
is not easy. It requires dedication and a love for children and family. It
requires the mother to put her family and their needs before her own—a concept
foreign to our present day society. As homeschoolers we have the opportunity to
strengthen this country by building strong families. There were many times over
the years when I would have given up if Frank had let me, but I am so glad now
that I didn’t. Our family, like most, has its ups and downs, but the foundation
is strong. You may argue with a member of the family today but by tomorrow it
will all be forgotten.
you didn’t grow up as part of a strong family unit you can build your own as
you homeschool. Remember: there is no substitute for time given to each
member of the family.